Memorial Preparations
Published by Gail December 27th, 2005 in LossMy cousin Tosca arrived late in the night from Vancouver, and the three of us stayed up ’til all hours working on preparations for the memorial. There’s a lot of material to assemble, people to coordinate, decisions to make. I think of David constantly, for I’m surrounded by artifacts of his life. The objective is to celebrate — consequently, grief is suppressed/postponed — but I have moments of agony now and again that threaten to surface.
I managed to finish the memorial program. It’s being printed at Llewellyn & McKane, where David worked for eight years. I know this is hard on everyone, especially his colleagues who saw David five days a week. When you see a person that often, they become part of your family.
David and I worked on our wedding program together, as we did with everything else. And as with any partnership, not having mine here to consult with — especially when the event centres around him — leaves me with an empty feeling. But, I’m not doing this half-heartedly, because David deserves nothing less than the best tribute I can give him.
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Gail, I don’t even know what to say, having just found out today… I’m just sending so much love your way right now. So much love. Know that you both are in my thoughts and prayers.
Gail,Im glad Tosca is there to give you a hand for the memorial sevice.It will be very difficult and be touching.Our prayers for you and may David’s soul rest in peace.
Hi Gail,
I attempted to send you our condolences after Karl told us what happened…! But the message came back to me. Maybe owing to our change of new email address.
(Karl helped me then to resend to you the email.
I only write to his friends when there is a reason to do so.)
His mum,
Nelly
Been thinking of you all day, and esp. this evening.
Our thoughts are with you for today and always.
Hi Gail.
I hope the memorial went well, and that you’re still holding up. Out of all of the tributes you have given to David in this blog, the best one that I can see is the strength that runs across all of your beautiful and moving posts. You are amazing.
I hope you experience much joy in the coming year.
Hi Gail,
Wish I had been there to offer you support and to witness what I’m sure was a beautiful celebration of David’s life. I’m so happy that Tosca was able to be there with you.
Lots of love, and warmest wishes for a 2006 that will bring you healing and happiness,
Mark