It’s Boxing Day — not here in the U.S., but many of you know what I’m talking about. Which means I made it through Christmas, now I just have to get through David’s memorial, New Year, and the rest of my life.
There is much uncertainty right now, the greatest concern being U.S. Immigration and how the Patriot Act is affecting me while I’m caught in the legal mire of a semi-processed spouse visa application. I have an immigration attorney and an estate lawyer assisting me, but there is little anyone can do over the holidays. I have less time to grieve than you’d think, but when I do, it’s in private.
Meanwhile, I’ve been struck speechless at the range of behaviour I’ve witnessed from people — ranging from disturbingly crass and even offensive to incredibly kind and empathetic. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve voiced in my head, “David, can you believe it?!?” I can practically see the shocked expression on his face.
Someone sent me a couple of links on bereavement, both of which I found quite helpful. One is called “The Merry Widow” and I found some parts of some sections quite true to my experiences thus far. { continue reading… }
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